Merry Christmas!!!!

Wow...it's hard to believe the end of the year has arrived. Seems like just a few weeks ago my kids were going to their first day of school. Where does the time go???? I know I am no different from most other moms, some days I can't wait for my kids to get a little older and other days I just want to cry because they are growing up too fast!! :(

Not much new going on in my life, which is a good thing..LOLL. We had a wonderful Thanksgiving, lots of family over at my house. My brother finally introduced us to his new girlfriend. That was really a big deal...seeing that my brother has never been married and has no children, and he's already past 45. She blended in well with our family, she seems to be a really sweet person and someone I could do things with like you do with your sisters. We've been emailing back and forth and she's basically just amazed that no one else had snatched up my brother before now. He is a die hard romantic and believes in going all out when it comes to the women he dates. He's always been that way, even in his twenties, when he was living with us. I'd see him taking his girlfriends out to fancy restaurants and renting nice cars so they wouldn't have to ride in his gigantic four by four ...hahaha. One time he was going to take his girlfriend to Hawaii....that didn't pan out though and he took our mom instead. How many guys do you know that would take their mom to Hawaii for a week???? Not many!!! It was just sad that every girl my brother dated only cared about what he could do for them..the money he could spend on them and when they decided he wasn't spending what they thought was enough they just screwed him around. Anyhow, she's moving in with him this weekend and I cannot wait to see where it goes after she gets moved in :).

On another note, I just sent off the Christmas gifts for my first daughter and my grandson. I finally finished the blanket I was crocheting..LOL. It was suppose to be a birthday present back in April...oops! Anyhow, it turned out great...if I do say so myself. They should get them by Tuesday. I sent her a package full of things for the baby a few weeks ago, things that belonged to my baby boys. Most of it was Pooh since that is her theme. I sent one of those No Jo or whatever you call em, sling carriers. It's not like the regular carrier, it cradles the baby when they are newborn(great for nursing!) and then when they get older, up into toddler years even, you can still carry them in it. Came with a tape, but who has a VHS player anymore :)?

She did say I can now post pics of her and my grandson so here goes!!! Hope you all have a wonderful Christmas and a Happy New Year!

Been a little while....

Just wanted to pop in and say hello to everyone who's been reading my blog. Funny, I never thought anyone would be interested in knowing about my life or the things that I think about. It's a nice feeling though, and it is such a therapeutic feeling to get my thoughts and feelings out there, basically expose myself to the scrutiny of others. Not much going on recently, soccer season is over...WOOOHOOO!!! This weekend past was the tournament, our girls played three games in one day :(, lost every one....they went into it with a good attitude though. This is the first season all these girls have played together as a team, the majority of the girls were together on a prior team, and a couple were new to the sport or have played before, but with other teams. They tied two games this year, won one by default and lost the rest, but all in all, they played really well their first season. Sounds ironic, but it's true. We had one girl injured in the third or fourth game, actually stopped the game and she had to be rushed to the emergency room. It was heartbreaking to hear her screaming and crying in agony...and it really angered me to hear the girls laughing from the opposing team, especially the one who injured our player. I just don't understand what values some parents are teaching their kids now a days. Our girl will always have to wear a knee support and will always have a loose tendon and knee cap because of it, grrrrrr. The coach actually had the gonads to come over and apologise, he didn't mean any of what he said of course, but whatever. Made him feel better I'm sure.

On a lighter and much more exciting note, my friend is home from the hospital. Long story short, it's a miracle. Her son sent an email back in September, and she had been in since September first. She was in ICU, hooked up to all kinds of machines and her liver was failing and their were so many other problems. When I first spoke with him, they were basically going to decide the following Monday what to do....it was really looking as if she were going to pass away any moment. Prayers help and this is one example. I went to see her that first day and she hardly even spoke...or when she did you couldn't understand her...she basically was in like a vegetative state. Her mom came in from Ohio and I tell you, it was scary....she looked older than her mom. Her mom had a stroke a few years back and she looked so healthy compared to my friend. Then the following weekend, she was alert and trying harder to talk and be understood, she even tried to get out of bed. She couldn't of course. The following week, they moved her from ICU into another room, not a regular one, but in between ICU and a normal room. Then a couple of weeks later she went into a nursing home.....Saturday I get a call...it was her!!! She is home...God works in amazing and wonderful ways.

And on yet another note, just a little irony. I have been trying to get rid of my kids clothes and toys and a few other odds and in's on Craig's list and through yard sales. I have sold quite a few of my daughters clothes through Craig's list, and now I am in the process of selling her old changing table. I called the woman who intends to purchase it, and she began telling me how she home schooled her children. She said that she'd adopted two or three I can't remember which, from China and a couple through fostering. Now they are in the process of adopting a baby from one of the girls they had adopted through fostering...as she was too young to parent. The point of my short story is this....I never realised how many bmoms, adoptees and adoptive parents there were out there until I started looking for and found my firstdaughter. Lately there is always something, either on the news, on a show I watch or a movie I see.... Even more so, I found out that my sons kinder teacher was adopted, as was the other kinder teacher..my daughters second grade teacher was trying to adopt from China...there was an adoptive mom talking to the secretary one day in the office. Now, I am getting ready to sell one of my belongings to an adoptive mom. I don't know...just kinda crazy..thought I'd share :). Hope ya'll have a great Thanksgiving and if I don't get back here before Christmas, have a safe and happy Christmas as well!!!

PS...I'm adding a pic of my firstdaughter and her mom and a pic of my two girls together for the first time...don't they look alike??!!! I will add pics of my grandson eventually...I'm still waiting for his mommy to post pics first..I made her a promise and I must abide. :(

What are Parents teaching kids these days???!!!

I am shocked and appalled everyday by the way kids behave, not only with other kids, but with adults. The lack of respect and the downright belligerent way they speak to other adults is really dis heartening. My daughter is in middle school now and she hates the kids that go there, well most of them, that is. She always tells me stories of how the whole class is punished because of the kids that are constantly causing disruptions in the class. This year she is in Theatre Arts and she tried to sell tickets for a show they were putting on, and many responses she got were..."I'm not gonna buy tickets from a white girl...". I mean...WTF????

Then we have the kids that are constantly walking past my house cursing and acting like a bunch of wild buffoons. They walk in front of and behind my house and I don't even want to let my kids out(the littlest especially), because of the things that come out of these kids mouths. I know that I was no angel when I was a teen mind you. But I knew that if I disrespected another adult, there would be "hell to pay". My mother would make me regret my actions and I can tell you in all honesty, the other kids on my street knew my mom meant business as well. Not one of them spoke to my mom without a "Yes Ma'am...No Ma'am" in the sentence somewhere. When my mom meant business, no one was immune to her wrath. She never hit any of my friends...LOL...but she just had that tone and that look that made you scared to death of what she might do.

Now I'm not going to say I'm in favor of beating kids, but I am not against a few swats on the behind when they need it. I got plenty when I was growing up and I'm not "damaged" because of it...if anything, I think it did me allot of good. I believe that kids need that now a days... more than ever!!! This "time out" and "disciplining with love and logic", just doesn't cut it with some kids. Yes, it might work for a few, but there are those that need a red bottom or if my mom had her way...a good slap upside their foul mouths every now and again.

My daughter plays soccer and it's still shocking to me when I hear what parents yell to the kids that are playing. Some examples are..."see we didn't even practice and we still beat you", or "get that girl with the brace, she's not that good anyway"...OR, better yet, "knock her down, shove her out of the way, TRIP HER!!!". These are the PARENTS saying these things!!!!! And the kids are not much better, last night they tied a team 0/0 and the girls are suppose to go to each side of the opposing team as well as slap hands(kinda like a high five) and congradulate each other. Half the girls refused and then the goalie for the other team had the audacity to tell our girls that they "sucked" anyway. GRRRRRRR......

I'm sorry, but it just thoroughly pisses me off, when I see parents that just don't give a shit how their kids behave...it's sad and scary to think that these will one day be grown ups passing this behavior on to other kids. Voting for our presidents and leaders in our communities. Scarier still, they are most likely the "road rage" that you will see on the news and they could even be teaching YOUR kids kids one day!!!

Just something to ponder.....

You have got to be kidding me!!!!

This falls in the "be careful what you say and in front of whom you say it" rule I believe. It is an incident that happened last year when my son was in Kindergarden and it still lingers in my mind. Of course it does not help that I see this woman everyday, and that she lives within visual sight of my house.

One morning I was running late, as usual, and had to sign in at the office before I could take my son to his class. I dropped him off and proceeded to the office to sign out. While signing out of the system, I overheard a conversation between another student's mother and the head woman in the office. The Mother was expressing her feelings about her daughter's reaction to finding out she was adopted. Her daughter is in fifth grade this year and was apparently 10 when her parents shared this information with her.

Now do not mis interpret what I'm about to say here. I do understand from a mothers perspective, the emotion that this young girls mother could have been feeling. She explained in detail, how they had told her daughter about her firstparent's. Apparently, her daughter replied with a comment something like..."you mean I have more parents out there??". Now...I understand, that this is her mother, in every sense of the word. But it did sting a little to hear her respond to this question so vehemently. "NO" she said, "you only have one set of parent's". She told this story with what sounded to me like quite alot of resentment and anger at the fact that her daughter had even thought, much less said alound, that she had "other parent's" out there somewhere.

I don't blame her for her response, because in reality, she is correct. I suppose, it might have been tone in which she said it, or the look on her face when she was recalling it. She has every right to feel the way she feels and I'm sure that if I knew the whole story I might feel differently. However, it just hit a nerve, I wanted to say..."I am a firstmom, and I found my Firstdaughter and we have an amazing relationship". I wanted to shout, sometimes it does work out. Sometimes you can have a relationship with your birthchild and his/her parents.


Now every day when I go in there, I want to pull out the picture of my first and second daughter sitting side by side for the first time ever. Then follow that up with a picture of my grandson... :).... Oh what I would give to have a picture of ALL my children together. I haven't yet, but one day I will. I just want people to realise, that no matter what ....be careful what you say, because you never know who might be listening...or within earshot that is!